It is so easy for us to allow our fears to hold us back. I am recently guilty of doing this. I know I need to step out of my comfort zone to grow my business and share my message, but I keep thinking about all the things that could go wrong and how people will judge me. I know I write frequently about overcoming this and how it is wonderful, but I am only human and it still happens to me sometimes.
I have been working to overcome this and it is taking me longer than I really anticipated. I started reading my tarot cards again and am getting back on track with my meditation. Doing this is going to be essential in my overcoming my fear. Getting out of our own heads and our own boxes is difficult but the great things that will come once I get over this hump will be so worth it. I don’t know if there is really one great way to let go of fear. You really have to do some searching to find out why you are afraid and how it is holding you back. This is an extremely personal process so meditate, journal, talk with people you trust, do some research if necessary. Once you pinpoint the why figuring out how to let go of that fear is one step closer. As I said above, it is not so easy to let go of the fear. It took me about a month to admit to myself that I was even letting fear hold me back. Once I did that I had to do some deep searching and honestly just had an epiphany one day when I was reading something on Instagram. I finally realized that I was allowing these exterior things affect how I was thinking about myself. It has been so long since I let other people affect my life but I allowed it to creep back in. Now that I know and I have worked through most of the reasons I am afraid I am close to being able to get out of my box. I know this gray area is going to be scary for a little bit, but I also know that it will be amazing. I know that whatever happens from this moment will be worth it!
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When things in life do not go as we planned or anticipated it is really easy to throw a pity-party. It is perfectly acceptable to feel disappointed and sad, but on occasion we sometimes tend to stay in that place. This is not good for us and pulling yourself out can be a great deal of work.
Here are 3 things I do to get myself out of my pity-party. Give myself a pep-talk: Yes, it sounds a little obnoxious and if you do it out loud, in public, people might look at you funny. It does work. I have to remind myself that whatever I am feeling at that moment is only in that moment. I do not have to hold onto those feelings and they do not have to define anything more than that moment. Accept that some things are not meant for me: One of the bloggers I follow The Champagne Diet, always says "What is meant for you will not pass you." I love this and I say it to myself often. This is a great mantra to use when you are feeling down and out about something. Remember that the Universe gives us the things that are meant for us and even if we think something was meant for us, the plan must not have been. So feel our feels and then let it go. Finally, LET IT GO. Yes, I do happen to love that song and it is great therapy to get yourself out of the pity-party funk. I like to blast it on the radio and sing at the top of my lungs. Letting shit go is really hard for me but I have found, with some work, it is actually very freeing. If something doesn't go the way we wanted, we just should let it fucking go. I am no expert on this and am still holding on to a few things from a year ago. However, I am working to let them go and when I get there it is going to feel wonderful. So, have a mini pity-party, but do not stay in that place. Have your moment, feel what you need to feel, sing like Elsa if you need and then just let it go. All that usually means, is that there is something else waiting for you and it is going to be great! |
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AuthorErin is a Spiritual Life Coach and Reiki Master Teacher. She started this blog as a way to share her self-love and body acceptance journey. Over the past 5 years it has become her business, her passion, and her purpose. She has created coaching programs to help other women find their truth, love their bodies, and embody their power and purpose. Categories |