Grown-Up Checklist ByeBye

I’ve been thinking lately about the stipulations we believe make us a “grown-up”.  I remember growing up thinking that there was some sort of secret checklist all adults knew about that meant you had succeeded at being an adult.  You know the one that they always play out in the movies.  You go to college, graduate, get a job, meet someone, buy a house, have some kids, etc. 

Now that I am an adult, I constantly find myself thinking EFF THAT! Why do we think there are certain things we have to achieve to make us successful?  So far, I have done all but one of those things and I still don’t feel like I have achieved that success that society makes us all feel we must meet.  

I’ve decided that I don’t give a crap about that list.  I spent most of my adult life being miserable because of this idea that I had to check off the list to become an acceptable member of adulthood.  I found that being lost and not having any idea what I’m doing has been far more rewarding. 

Maybe you won’t ever buy a house, graduate college, meet someone, have kids.  If you are doing life the way YOU choose that is all that matters.  I know that it is graduation season and people are out there thinking of the next thing they must achieve on that checklist to adulthood.  I’m here to tell you to throw it out.  It might take you until your 33 to figure out your dream.  You will get lost and life will get hard.  All those things are perfectly acceptable. 

My advice, do not live your life to achieve a success that someone else thinks you need to have.  One day you will wake up and realize you lived your entire life for other people.  You will wonder how in the hell you go there.  Just remember that you hold the power in your mind and body to make life what you want it to be.
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If the choices you are making are for you and your dreams that is what truly matters.  It doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks about your life, it only matters how you feel about your life.  So, live your life and make it everything you want it to be.
 
*Disclaimer* I am not saying don't go to college.  I am simply suggesting that you do what you really want to do, despite what other's may think**