Minimizing Ourselves to Make People Comfortable

Lately, I have become hyper-aware to women minimizing themselves to make other people feel comfortable.  I am guilty of doing this also, but just recently I have started working to change.  Always, working to change. Truthfully, I wasn’t even aware I was doing it until I started noticing other women around me doing it.  I began to wonder why we feel like we should reign ourselves in so that we don’t make someone else feel uncomfortable. 

Why do we feed into the belief that we are too much? Why do we continue to believe that we have to “be less” for someone else’s comfort?  If someone does not like you the way you are then they are probably not your people.  Just keep being you and you will find your people.

We women need to continue being ourselves and love ourselves just as we are.  We do not need to be quieter, less “extra”, wear make-up, or be anything we do not feel like being to make other people feel comfortable around us.  The only people that benefits is the people we are compromising ourselves to satisfy.  Minimizing who we are to make other people happy is ridiculous. 

I still notice myself doing it on occasion.  Saying sorry all the time for being too loud or not moving out of my own space for someone.  Apologizing for being a human being in this world and being happy with myself is going to take some time to change, but I will be changing it. 

We need to continue providing support and lifting each other up. Keep providing that reminder that it is alright to be you.  You do not have to change who you are because someone else doesn’t like it.  If they are meant to be in your life they will either learn to appreciate you as you are or they will already love you as you are. 
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Minimizing who you are to make other people comfortable is a waste of time!  Be who you are, keep shining and your will watch your circle grow.